Often,
we prison ourselves just because we truly can’t please everybody. Often we
prison ourselves just because our fear of someone’s judgement. We have the anxiety,
thinking we won’t be able to meet the standard society put on us. But like it or not, judgement will be always there. No matter
how good, or how bad you are, people
will take their time to do the judgement.
The
question is, when people put their judgement on us, is it going to define us? Or
is it going to trigger us to try harder? Does it sound wrong? Does it sound so
manipulating? Like we forced ourselves? To me when someone judge me, I will take
some time to think why, how and what is the solution. It activates my awareness
of myself. The flowchart is very amazing right?
I
can potrait myself, when I came to the party, the moment I entered the hallway,
I will be so panic, nervous and feeling uncomfortable. Knowing people will
judge my look from top to toe. So many emotion in my mind. They are going to fight
to find the prior emotion which can finally trigger my output.
The
output I am talking about is my manner in front of others. Am I going to be looking
as a person who enjoys the party or not? But believe me people own their
perspective, no matter what. You just need to deal with it.
Well
judgement isn’t always about the
negative side. It can be also the reason why someone can achieve to their
fullest. for example, when someone tells
you the way your dressing isn’t really interesting. When we can accept the fact,
then we will try our best to improve things from us. By maybe buying some new
dress, asking to the professional, ask opinion from others.
We
all come from different family background, interest and education. That’s how
actually we need to see us. We are all different. But we are all having the
same standard. We love being validated by someone else. We love being acknowledged
by people, when love being the center, we love being spotlighted. That’s how we
feed our ego right? So when our ego is pleased, are we actually at ease?
To
me its not, until we know who the real us, we love us, we don’t need other’s
validation.
Good
luck, remember judgement will be forever judgement, but loving ourselves is the
journey of investing huge hope. 😊
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